This New Pad is HOT!

Quick update.  I’m in my new place right now and it feels great.  I had my furniture delivered today so I’ve been setting everything up.  Oh, and the cable/internet came today as well… obviously.  My pad is on its way to becoming a classy bachelor apartment.  Hopefully when I am done I can get some pictures to show.  Thanks for everyone who gave their input regarding brown shoes and black pants.  Surprisingly, I was the one who said you can’t do it (my mom thought you could match those two colors) – I knew I was right!

On a side note, I’ll be seeing that waitress tonight that I was talking about a while back (I’m going with a friend to get dinner at the place she works).  Keep your fingers crossed as I continue this pursuit.

Probably the worst date I’ve ever been on

It was definately the worst date, but probably the funniest at the same time. Luckily, Rachel was totally cool and just went with the flow. The whole time we were cracking up… so here’s how it went:

I picked up her up and on the way there I was getting to know her a little better. She was a little difficult to talk to, I kinda felt like I was interviewing her for a bit. Perhaps it was because we were complete opposites. She was very “punk rock” and I’m very clean cut (i think I was rocking an Express shirt and Silver jeans). I also have zero tattoos and piercings while she has 40 piercings (I’m not making that up, I asked her) and quite a few tats. Still, I don’t judge, plus I found her extremely attractive.

Okay, so we get to our destination. I was planning on a nice round of putt putt in the glow of a summer night. Well, the place was closed when we got there….. so that plan was shot hahaha. Across the street was a DQ so I took her there to get some ice cream. This would have gone fine but the girl behind the counter messed up both our orders. I wasn’t about to make a scene and she said she was fine with what she got, so we moved onto the third part of my date.

I took her (about a mile down the road) to a state park with a beautiful lake. My hope was to sit at a picnic table (that I scouted out before hand) right on waters edge, eat our ice-cream, enjoy the scenery, and get to know each other some more.

Sounded pretty good right? I guess I didn’t count on it being one of the COLDEST nights this summer. So here we are, outside eating ice cream on a freezing cold night. I finally just broke the ice and said, “so this is probably the best date you’ve ever been on isn’t it?” (obviously joking)

We laughed for a good while and I eventually to her home. We haven’t gone on another date. We talked on the phone twice a few days later but that’s it.

So yeah, that was the biggest flop of a date I’ve ever had…

The Biggest First Date Turn-Off

You take a shower, put on your favorite shirt, pick out your best pair of pants, spray on that cologne/perfume, do your hair just right, take a deep breath, then walk out the door. It’s time for that first date. You met this Jane/John Doe, hit it off, and have now scheduled a time to get to know each other a little bit better.

Personally, I don’t get all that nervous on first dates, but maybe it’s because I haven’t gone on a date with someone I was REALLY crushing on – just more spur of the moment, no expectation type deals. If things work out with this waitress girl, then I will probably be real nervous.

So even though I don’t get nervous, it doesn’t mean that all my dates are good. Sometimes they are a big turn-off. Turn-offs take different forms for different people. For me, I am turned off when I find myself having to drive the conversations… like if I didn’t ask her questions we would be sitting there in silence. In other words, I need a competent girl who is comfortable with human interaction.  I hate having to “interview” my date…

That is my biggest turn-off on a date. What about you? Ladies, what turns you off to a guy on a date? Fellas, what gets to you?

This will def help me with my upcoming date (Jenny) in the near future!

LADIES: Clean Shaven? Shadow? Or Really Scruffy?

So I’ve been wondering about this for a while. What is it that is most attractive on a guy as far as facial hair is concerned. Granted my job kind of limits me to the clean shave look (keep it professional in the office of course). But on the weekend I usually rock the five o’clock shadow… it usually goes over well (so I think), but who knows really.

This could be one of those individual things though, but I thought I would throw the question out there just in case there is some consensus among the ladies that I didn’t know about haha. 🙂

Unfortunately I can’t rock the “really scruffy” very often since, as I said, I shave everyday before heading into the office (again, gotta make a good impression on the elders who control my salary and promotions)!

Nonetheless, please share your preference!

The Trick All Women Play

Did that title get your attention?  I hope so – because I want to rant a little about the trick that all women play.  In fact, I have even brought this up to some girls and they laugh but don’t disagree.  I’m ranting about this trick because I fell for it before I knew what it was… and therefore, I think it is unfair to the unsuspecting guys out there!

Picture this:  You’re a single guy going on dates with a variety of girls.  One of the girls is pretty cool so you go on a few more dates with her, but you don’t really have an interest in starting a relationship.  Because you have gone on a few dates she gets more bold and asks if you are dating anyone else and you tell her the truth (because us guys always tell the truth).  You tell her that you are dating a variety of people, and that you have fun with her, but you’re not looking for that serious relationship.

Amazingly… she AGREES with you and says that is totally fine and that she just wants to hang out with you and not have anything serious.

Too good to be true?  Yes.  You see, the moment she found out you have other “prospects”, that triggered two things… 1) it makes you more attractive to her…. 2) her new mission is to “beat out” those other “bitches” and have you all to herself.

It’s nature – I’m not making this up.

How does she get you all to herself?  By acting like nothing ever really bothers her, by “liking” almost everything you like, and by going along with everything you want to do (i.e. watching sports at the bar 3 times in a week).

So life is good for you now, but you find yourself getting more calls from this girl, and as a result, you are spending more time with her.  Chances are you have gotten intimate with this girl by now, but you think it’s all good because she knows that you’re dating around.

Then it happens…

One day while hanging out she gives you the ultimatum.  She tells you that she isn’t cool with you going out with all those other girls while still hooking up with her.  “Damn” you think to yourself… “there goes the good life”.  But you’re not too worried because you think she’s fun so you’re okay with trying out the exclusive relationship.

All of sudden… things start becoming less cool.  She suddenly doesn’t want to go watch sports all the time, or hang out with all your friends, or go to the monster truck rally.  Suddenly you’re doing what SHE wants to do…

Game Over, the trick has successfully been played.  The old “Bait and Switch”.  So amateurs out there… beware… you have now been warned.

New Dating Prospect

So just a quick update, but I have a new prospect on the dating scene.  I met her through a friend and we were just talking a bit.  After keeping in contact with her for the past few days, she asked me out to get a drink sometime in the near future.  Naturally I’ll go.  She seems nice and I think I’ll have a good time.

I anticipate that it will be pretty relaxed.  Perhaps we’ll just get some people together instead of a “solo” date… either way is cool though.  I’ll keep you updated on how it goes and if anything comes of it.

She has also been added to the Current Dating Prospects section of the blog.

Advice to Single Guys

Hey fellas,

I know what you’re thinking… “what can this guy tell me about girls that I don’t already know?!”  Well, frankly I’m probably not gonna tell you anything new, but just remind you of a very powerful dating tool you can use when trying to grab the interest of a girl.

First, this isn’t a magic formula… if you don’t match the girl’s taste physically (build, height, facial features), it will likely be difficult to successfully spark her interest.  Don’t worry though, there are plenty of them out there.  One way to “pre-screen” girls is to join something like match.com and then establish contact with girls who are looking for people like you.

BUT, if you don’t do that, one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received is to make the conversation about them.  In other words, when you are talking to a girl, ask her lots of questions about her and talk about her intersets.

“Big deal, that’s nothing new” …  well then start doing it!  It has without question helped me get a few dates.  It is actually much harder than it sounds; we want to put out all our good attributes and accomplishments in an effort to impress the girl (very primal in nature i suppose).

It’s simple, people love talking about themselves.  When they start talking about themselves, they feel good/happy, and then associate that feeling with you!

So stop talking about yourself when trying to pick up the ladies and start asking questions about them!

Bachelor Pad – Need some Female Advice

I’m so pumped right now!  In about a week I will be moving into my first really nice place before I start my real job (I work at a large consulting firm).  A few of the things I like most about my place are the wooden floors throughout and the granite counter tops in the kitchen.  Also, I am a huge fan of its location… it is right in the middle of a town which is convenient because I can walk to the bank, grocery store, food (SUBWAY!), and bar on the weekend.

This past weekend I went and bought some furniture (a new couch, bedroom set, tables, rugs, etc.).  After spending way too much (I guess I got caught up in the excitement), I am now figuring out if there is anything else I should consider for my place to make it into a respectable bachelor pad.

What do I mean by respectable?  I mean that I want to have a place that sends a message to my dates and female friends that I am no longer a drunk, party loving college guy.  Sure, I sometimes enjoy getting a bit tipsy from time to time, but I figured my place doesn’t need to reflect this lifestyle anymore.

Ladies, if you go into a guys place, what kind of things do you generally look for/at?  Pictures on the wall?  Arrangement of furniture?

I appreciate your help!

A Question for Waitresses

Okay so I have this thing… I have this thing where I seem to be attracted to girls in the service industries (get your head out of the gutter fellas). For instance, I think the girl who cuts my hair is really cute, I have exchanged phone numbers with a waitress in the past month, and I’m currently going on dates here or there with a girl who works at a clothing store.

To make things worse, I am crushin’ big time on this waitress near my place. Don’t worry, I’m not getting hammered and using cheesy pick-up lines. In fact, I have been playing it real cool. My buddy and I went to this sports bar a couple of times in the past three days. I’ve joked around with her a bit, asked about stuff she is interested in, talked about her future plans, etc. etc.

The last time I was there she hinted that she might be getting off early (like 12:30-1:00am). I was planning on being out still so in a very respectful, polite way said that I’d leave my number in case she did get off early and wanted to join us.

She didn’t call.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t see this as a bad thing really… she may have been bogged down after all or maybe she got off at 1:45am and figured it was too late. But I really think she may be interested… and I’ve been trying everything not to blow it.

How do I know she is interested? Well this is where it gets tricky… because service industry people are more flirty naturally. But let me lay it out there and any waitresses reading this, help me out:

1. she came to the table to chat (for about 5min) without me even calling for her attention… upon which we’d joke around, laugh, and talk about random “filler” things that people do when they are flirting
2. I ordered a beer she never had and when she asked how I liked it I offered her some… to my surprise, she looked around for a manager then took a quick sip and said she liked it
3. She seemed honestly okay with me giving her my number when I was leaving

So now what? I plan on going in to eat there again eventually… and since she has told me her schedule (every day but sunday), I know I’ll see her again. I was just gonna play it cool and have friendly conversation but nothing more.

Any other advice?

oh and if you are reading this and happen to be the waitress I am talking about… I understand that any chance I had with you is now over.