It wasn’t until recently that I realized the significance of the insignificant. Of course, I am referring to the everyday compliment. The past few months I have been dishing out more compliments to girls I am friends with and the ones I am dating… and man, they eat it UP!
I don’t think us guys compliment girls enough because when I do dish one out, it changes their mood completely – it’s a weird phenomenon.
For example, I was going in to get my haircut the other day. While waiting for my stylist to finish up, I noticed she was looking really good. She had on one of those yellow, t-shirt material dresses that went down to just above her knees. I definately find her attractive, and wouldn’t even mind a date with her, but over the past year her and I have just been friends… only seeing each other when I come in every 6 weeks for a clean up.
Well, she came over to get me and as we were walking to the seat, I said:
I really like you dress, it looks great on you
Thats it. That is all I said. But man, you would have thought I just gave her three dozen fresh roses! She lit up immediately and became more chatty, quick to giggle, and overall flirty with me the entire time I was there!
Needless to say, complimenting has some major advantages. I highly recommend it… and girls, do it to guys as well. No one compliments anyone these days, so when you do, it makes you stick out (in a good way). If you’re gonna compliment a guy, say something about his muscles or ability to fix/do something. This may seem kind of cliche, but us guys like to be recognized for those types of things (why do think guys are always trying to fix a problem instead of just listen to the problem! It’s how our minds work).
Something along the lines of, “your shoulders look really big in that shirt” will do just fine… Or perhaps, “I can’t believe you were able to fix that so quick”. I promise you that it will work wonders.
As for the fellas, start complimenting the ladies on how they look. Besides, they put in a lot of effort to look good … let them know you noticed!
I can only speak from my experience, but after dishing out compliments on clothing, hair, smiles, etc., I have had a lot more success in getting dates. Just a thought.
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