Trying REAL hard not to screw this up

It has been a while… and man a lot has happened. I don’t know if I have the time or patience to spell it all out… the list of prospective dates needs to be updated tremendously! haha

so here’s the thing… I think I might be on my way to a relationship !?!??! who would have guessed right? I’ll write another post about it when I have more time (im on my way out)… but if anyone still reads this thing, let it be known that I actually did something right and I’m trying REAL hard not to mess it up with this girl.

Complimenting Power

It wasn’t until recently that I realized the significance of the insignificant. Of course, I am referring to the everyday compliment. The past few months I have been dishing out more compliments to girls I am friends with and the ones I am dating… and man, they eat it UP!

I don’t think us guys compliment girls enough because when I do dish one out, it changes their mood completely – it’s a weird phenomenon.

For example, I was going in to get my haircut the other day. While waiting for my stylist to finish up, I noticed she was looking really good. She had on one of those yellow, t-shirt material dresses that went down to just above her knees. I definately find her attractive, and wouldn’t even mind a date with her, but over the past year her and I have just been friends… only seeing each other when I come in every 6 weeks for a clean up.

Well, she came over to get me and as we were walking to the seat, I said:

I really like you dress, it looks great on you

Thats it. That is all I said. But man, you would have thought I just gave her three dozen fresh roses! She lit up immediately and became more chatty, quick to giggle, and overall flirty with me the entire time I was there!

Needless to say, complimenting has some major advantages. I highly recommend it… and girls, do it to guys as well. No one compliments anyone these days, so when you do, it makes you stick out (in a good way). If you’re gonna compliment a guy, say something about his muscles or ability to fix/do something. This may seem kind of cliche, but us guys like to be recognized for those types of things (why do think guys are always trying to fix a problem instead of just listen to the problem! It’s how our minds work).

Something along the lines of, “your shoulders look really big in that shirt” will do just fine… Or perhaps, “I can’t believe you were able to fix that so quick”. I promise you that it will work wonders.

As for the fellas, start complimenting the ladies on how they look. Besides, they put in a lot of effort to look good … let them know you noticed!

I can only speak from my experience, but after dishing out compliments on clothing, hair, smiles, etc., I have had a lot more success in getting dates. Just a thought.

More than Just FireWorks

So this weekend has been pretty busy… As I said, I spent a lot of time with Trish over the weekend. She is best friends with my best friend’s girlfriend, so the four of us were around each other for quite some time. We spent the first night getting drunk, watching fireworks, and swimming. The next night we went to the casino (I won $70) and then went back for some hot-tub and what not. At the end of the weekend, we all went canoing (brought some beers of course) and soaked up the sun while out on the river. Needless to say, it was a pretty awesome 3 days.

So here’s the thing. Me and Trish acted like a couple all weekend. I mean, it was obvious that we were both acting like we were dating each other. At the fireworks show, we cuddle all “couply” like and kissed whenever we could. I had no problem with this… in fact, Trish has something about her… she is so damn sexy… I just can’t explain it. Funny thing is, she isn’t really my type. I tend to go for the real thin, taller girls (not anorexic style… just maybe a little bit thinner than average). Trish is a bit ‘thicker’, but no one has ever made me so crazy! She’s just SO damn SEXY! haha

well… the weekend ended and with it, so did our 3 day relationship. I moved back to my new home city (where my job is) and she’s doing whatever. I must say though, I had a good time and I’ll definately be calling her up when I head back that way.

When a Window Closes, a Door Opens

Just when I thought that tonight would be a bust, things turned out to be pretty damn good! I went to the restaurant to finally ask out the waitress that I have been crushing on, but sadly it was her day off. This sucks because I am heading out of town for a while and I was looking forward to setting up a date before I left. I’m pretty confident she’ll agree to go out… as I said, I have just been playing it cool, cracking a joke or two, and asking her questions about her life and what not. She now comes over to my table and talks with me unprovoked whenever I visit which means she is comfortable with me … this also means it won’t be creepy when I do ask her out.

BUT, like I said, she wasn’t there, so that window was closed tonight…

HOWEVER, I got a message today from Trish! She wants to hang out this Sunday (something about canoing). So now I can update her status from Idle to Dating… haha… I haven’t seen her in a while so it will be nice to hang out and catch up. As I mention on this site, Trish is a bit of a party animal so I know I’m gonna have a good time. Of course, I’ll give you an update on how that all plays out.

On a side note, I wonder how these ladies feel about me being on the dating scene. They seem okay when I tell them I’m dating around, but I can’t help but believe they are all thinking the same thing.

Until next time!

Most Recent “Date”

It wasn’t really a date, it was very much like the chill night I had two days ago. Again, Kelly decided to come over after work (she works late) and I wasn’t up to anything much other than preparing for my big move. She came over around 10pm and we decided to just kick it and watch TV… Gangs of New York to be specific.

Naturally though, watching TV became a second priority as we began to focus on each other a bit more. She decided it would be a good idea to give me a back rub (and holy shit, she is amazing at them). Of course I didn’t argue with this. Well, after about 20min, it was safe to say that TV was the last thing on my mind. I turned over and let her know what I was thinking by grabbing the back of her head and pulling her in for a passionate kiss.

When all was said and done, we popped open a beverage and watched the rest of the movie… which is actually REALLY good! It was a fun night. I’m not sure when I’ll get a chance to see Kelly again since my job starts up and I’ll be a couple of hours from her – but whatever, I’m sure our paths will cross again.

Sex with No Brains or Brains with No Sex

This seems to be the luck of my previous girlfriends. Either I’ll be with someone and we shag all the time (great of course), but they can’t hold a conversation with me. I don’t mean that they are dumb, but I am a pretty intense thinker with a value on education.  For example, I have a masters degree, and when I am seeing a girl who doesn’t have plans to finish up college, it’s kind of a turn off. Perhaps I am being a bit pretentious, but I want a girl who puts the same emphasis on education, learning, and intellectual thought.

On the other hand, I’ve been with some girls who have the smarts but are not as into sex as I am. I don’t think I am into it more than most guys (well maybe a little… I guess I have raging hormones). Are there any girls who have a healthy balance of both? So far, it doesn’t seem to be so. Well, I got faked out one time. I was dating a girl who started off liking sex but it became few and far between after a while…and we weren’t even married yet!

So anyway, just felt like venting a bit. Who knows, I may have come across as an ass in this post – but that’s the beauty about blogging, it allows you to say the things you’ve always wanted to 🙂

15 Reasons Why I’m Glad to be a Guy

I got to thinking today about what life would be like if I was a girl… and I immediately became grateful that I am a guy! I think this top 15 list sums up my thoughts nicely. In no particular order, they are as follows:

1. It feels good to pee: If a guy holds his pee for a really long time and finally goes, it feels like a mild orgasm. I’ve heard this is not true in women. Sorry. Is it bad that I always hold my pee as long as I can for this reason?
2. I can pee anywhere, and any way I want: I can pee outside, standing up, or even lying on my side (why would I do that? Because I can). I also don’t have to wipe the tip of my penis when I am finished. If you have sandals on, and you’re on concrete; you have to angle the penis up and shoot the stream far away so the splash doesn’t hit your feet. This is also fun to do. Women wouldn’t dare pee on concrete. That would be bad.
3. I can aim my pee stream: There is something about writing your name with your pee in snow. It’s easy in cursive because you don’t have to stop. Try printing it guys, it’s much more challenging. Sorry women, you can’t do this either.
4. The monthly visit: This has got to be one the most glaring bonuses for men. I could not imagine what it would be like to have blood come out of my pee hole. Screw that. Plus all the pain before and after the event. PMS? Sorry girls.
5. Child birth: A wise man once told me that if men were to bear children, there would be families with either one child, or none. If there were two kids, they must be twins. No man would ever go through that more than once, and they would ALL be by C-section.
6. Nine months of pregnancy: Refer to my previous list comments.
7. We have a single orgasm, maybe two: If men could have multiple orgasms, would we ever get anything accomplished? We would have like 10 a day.
8. We get to have sex with women: Men are hairy, stinky, usually not muscular. We fart, burp…gross. Women are beautiful, curvy, have breasts, smell wonderful, have beautiful hair, lips, etc. Men are so lucky indeed.
9. The wonderful double standard: Man sleeps with 20 women…cool. Woman sleeps with 20 men…slut.
10. Makeup: I’m so glad women wear makeup, but I am damn lucky that I don’t have to.
11. Getting ready: From getting out of bed to walking out the door = 15 minutes
    Women…1 hour 15 minutes on a good day.
12. Ugly men still date hot women: Although this can be annoying at times.
13. Fat men still date hot women: There are much more fat man, hot girl relationships than fat women, hot guy relationships.
14. Shaving: Yes we have to shave our face and you don’t. But we don’t HAVE to do it, and I must say some women prefer scruffy men. You won’t find a man anywhere in the world that likes a chick with hairy armpits. I know some women choose not to shave, and most men choose not to date those women.
15. I can take off my shirt whenever I get hot: I wish this was accepted for women to do, but it isn’t…not yet